I’ve commented a few times recently via social media how amazing critical colleagues are. These are people who will challenge you, call you out, help you grow and learn in very authentic ways. One such college, who works in Pennsylvania and co-facilitates with me at various leadership conferences across the country, engaged me in great reflection about the concept of Grace. He told me of his friend Tom Matson who wrote in his book, “UNFROZEN: A Father’s Reflections on a Brain Tumor Journey” who had this to say about grace:
Grace: a word and associated actions I’ve never been able to comprehend. I don’t think our minds can fully grasp grace. I know many people could define grace differently, but for me, I see it as receiving love when we don’t necessarily deserve it. It’s love when we least expect it, and it’s love when we have done nothing to receive it.
I use this word often in my work as a Chief Diversity Officer. What I realized was missing in my college, and indeed in all communities struggling with racism and other forms of oppression, is grace. As a Christian, grace and mercy, sit at the core of the love that saves our souls. If it were not for these twins, we would be lost. So I often wonder how I can give grace in my interactions, as I teach acceptance in the work I do. I call on my colleagues who are engaged in tough work around oppression, education, equity, and justice to give each other grace as we struggle through this life. Sometimes its the only thing that we have left, and its the only thing that keeps us trying despite the difficulty.
Dr. Anthony
Dr. Michael D. Anthony 
Dr. Anthony,
What a great post and healthy reminder for our lens on life! Sadly, far too often we look at others through a lens that is simply honoring of our needs, our wants and our desires. Yet, imagine the cultural shift that would take place if instead we took the time to look at others through a lens of love and through their eyes.
Of course the blessing in such moments is that when I take the time to understand others strengths, others values and others hopes, I’m changed as well. Quite simply it’s all parties attempting to look at life through a growth mindset rather then a fixed mindset. It’s attempting to live grace, live growth and living love. When that takes place, then the world and others look different. What a gift!
Appreciate your words!
Tom Matson
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Thank you Tom:) Your affirmation means more than you know! Happy holidays:)
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